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Conflict Resolution
Posted: 06 Apr 2006 10:03 AM |
There is a risk of conflict anytime two or more people interact. A critical component of maintaining relationships is being able to avoid conflicts and resolve conflict situations when they occur. Failure to resolve conflict results in a myriad of social problems. Students may develop a reputation as people who can't get along with others, or aren't good friends. Share questions and describe your experiences in helping children with conflict resolution.
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Re: Conflict Resolution
Posted: 07 Apr 2006 08:45 AM |
| I've noticed when my daughter who is age 11 has a conflict within her group of friends, she backs off and comes inside the house. Sometimes I think this is a good thing because she doesn't put herself in a position where she gets in the middle of an argument or fight that's going on (avoids conflict) but other times I worry that she isnt learning how to resolve a conflict. |
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Re: Conflict Resolution
Posted: 16 Apr 2006 10:08 PM |
| One of my students lately had started to scratch, punch, and hit her peers when she didn't get her way. I have thought hard and have tried to find ways to help her see the value of friendship and how to nurture it. My co-worker gave me two brilliant ideas to try. Believe it or not, it works. I set up a corner in the cloakroom call "Safe Spot" and use it for her to unwind, or regroup herself anytime things are getting too much over her head. There are a blank sheet of paper, a pencil, a hand puppet, one of her favourite storybook on that desk, no more. I will check back every5 minutes or so and ask whether she is ready to join the class. On the occasions when she misbehaves (unkind to her friends, for example), I will send her to the same spot but I will leave only one item on that desk: a social story book (pictures of her friends and her during those good times together). She then realizes that she might lose all her friends and all the good times if she continues to hit them. It is a very gentle strategy for her to reflect and learn on her own. I forget to mention "Social Story" booklet is another idea that works so well with all my students with special need. |
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Re: Conflict Resolution
Posted: 19 Apr 2006 02:04 PM |
| My daughter was doing the same thing at that age. However, as she got older, (she's now almost 16) she began to resolve conflicts in a different way-she started talking out the problem instead of backing away from it. It seems that she was watching how other people resolved problems and now she feels comfortable doing it herself. Your daughter may simply be observing the situation and by removing herself from it, she is, at least in her mind, resolving the conflict to her own satisfaction. |
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Re: Conflict Resolution
Posted: 27 Apr 2006 12:03 PM |
| I am so glad that you wrote this. I am a 7th grade teacher and this year we have a group of students who are so into posturing and looking tough in front of their friends we are having a really hard time getting them to accept peaceful resolutions to conflicts instead of feeling the need to fight or stand up for yourself. Even when other students make small, teasing comments their reaction is over the top. Some of the students have a home influence that is telling them to be tough and not let other students make you look like a wimp. How can we as teachers combat that influence? I have tried to talk rationally with students about making good decisions and how following protocol (someone gave me good advice once to avoid using the work "rules" because rules deem a judgement of right v. wrong) is part of life. You can still be respected by resolving conflicts in other ways besides using your fists. Do you think if they saw adults peacefully resolving conflicts or setting up situations where two adults get into an argument and then asking them what each adult should do to resolve the conflict it might help? Part of me thinks nothing but maturity and a little growing up will work. Has anyone else had experience perhaps in a school with a lot of discipline issues that have found strategies that work? |
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 martlee
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| Joined: 03 Jun 2007 |
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Re: Conflict Resolution
Posted: 03 Jun 2007 02:17 PM |
Our middle school is overrun with bullies. They spend their time making fun of others in order to promote their own self importance. Those on the sidelines who don't interfere or put an end to it are just as guilty including administrators and teachers. My son was a victim. In those 3 years of middle school he learned that adults at school are not to be trusted, his parents are sincere in their efforts but ineffectual, no one likes him or is willing to be his friend, life is easier when he becomes invisible. Thank goodness for the 2 teachers in 3 yrs. who were friends to our son and who had an open door policy for him to seek refuge whenever his schedule allowed.
We were told repeatedly that nothing could be done. I totally disagree. Children who are consistently instigating negative situation can be identified. In our school, there are barriers of behavior that are not crossed, so some thing is working, perhaps a big part of the problem is that the bar is just too low.
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Re: Conflict Resolution
Posted: 30 Mar 2008 03:51 PM |
I have a 7 year old boy who gets very nervous every time he is invited to a Birthday party. He initially doesn't want to go because he says "he feels lonely at Birthday parties". It is difficult for him to interact socially in a group. He has a friend who he gets along with very well and they seem to have a pretty good relationship. But, as soon as he is put in a group environment, he is isolated, and doesn't seem to have the social skills required to be part of the group. What can I do to help him?
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